I had been home with my son 24/7 in the past. But that was for the first 3 months of his life.
Well, 4 months – he was born prematurely and had to spend his first few weeks sleeping at the hospital as I watched him being poked and probed for testing and monitoring. Once he got home it was fairly easy: Eat, poop, sleep, cry sometimes, repeat. Anyway, that’s for another publication on premature babies big or small.
So in between then and now, what changed? You might ask. Well, my son has had time to adapt in day care, then in school. He has been maintaining social connections and learning from very competent people. Meanwhile, I have been adapting as a member of society, working and paying bills, and coming home to a very physically exhausted boy with lots of tales to tell because he had a fun exciting day.
The Corona virus changed everything.
Schools are closed and my son has been home for over a month now. I’ve had to battle work with motherhood, and then sickness with motherhood. No matter how high your fever is, you cannot turn off being a mother.
Thankfully I am not alone. I have a wonderful partner who is an amazing father but still, sometimes too lenient with his firstborn son. I’m still able to shower and take a quick nap while they’re out in the yard playing ball, thank the heavens.
I’ll take this quick opportunity to give a shout out to all parents, especially single parents out there. You are doing an amazing job!!!
I digress. This virus CHANGED EVERYTHING! I am no toddler teacher. I do have some years of teaching behind me, but my students were teens one could more or less reason with. I do not have the space in my house, the energy, or the qualifications to keep a toddler’s mind focused on learning all day. Especially while I’m working. There have been three main activities so far: drawing/colouring, Netflix (for him to keep up with English), and story time with toys. He won’t listen when I want to do the alphabet or count to 10. I even bought things for fine motor-skills so he can practice zipping up, clipping buttons and making knots. He has a 3 second time span of interest and then moves on to do something else. It’s so frustrating!
There are adult things that are always at the back of our minds like: Will we still be able to provide? Have we paid all the bills? Is this too much bread in one week? Paracetamol will become a dear friend for headaches. The mirror becomes an enemy and your mind is all over the place.
I’m guessing you are waiting for the part where I tell you how to be a supermom…
So sorry about the misleading title!
There is actually no way you can be perfect generally speaking, much less during a never-before-experienced crisis affecting the entire world.
The truth is you are already a supermom!
Is your child healthy? Is your child fed? Is your child mostly in a good/happy mood even when it pisses you off? If you answered yes to all these questions, please, give yourself a pat on the shoulder and a big praise in the mirror.
On your CV for your next job application you can definitely add: Work well under pressure.
Now keep it up moms! Let’s make sure the world doesn’t crumble, one home and one child at a time.